Hampshire nail pro on maternal mental health struggles & pressure to be a perfect mum

Andover-based nail artist & educator, Jo Bennett, opens up about feeling her lowest after having twins…

When I was a new mum, I struggled to focus, my mood dropped significantly and I had no motivation, whether to take my twins out, work or even wash my face. I also had nightmares and flashbacks, which were later diagnosed as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). I hate to admit that I almost regretted having children, however I couldn’t help feeling that way. My husband noticed that something wasn’t right and did everything he could to support me.

I struggled to open up at first because I felt an overwhelming urge to be the best mum ever. I pushed my needs to the side and didn’t want to accept that something was wrong.

Eventually, I was so frustrated by the way I felt that I reached out for help and attended therapy sessions.

I felt at my lowest here, but hid my feelings from those around me.

For mums that are struggling, my advice would be to share how you’re feeling, whether to a health visitor, doctor, family member, friend or helpline like Samaritans (116 123) or Mind (0300 102 1234). There’s a lot of support out there – you just need to reach out. It’s hard but you will feel better for doing it, and getting help sooner means you can enjoy more time with your children. I felt such a huge weight lift when I shared my feelings.

What I’d tell my past self:

It’s OK to feel how you do right now; things have been difficult and you’ve been through a lot. Be kind to yourself, take your time and you will get there.

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